If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work.Much of the best work of the world has been done against seeming impossibilities.The things is to get the work done.
Here I am giving you to use your most resource and achieve your fullest potential.
There are so many steps to influence people and here I am giving you best tips to influence friends and peoples.
If you argue and rankle and contradict,you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's goodwill.
So figure out for yourself. Which would you rather have ,an academic ,theatrical victory or a person's goodwill?You can seldom have both.You may be right ,dead right, as you speed along in your argument,but as far as changing another's mind is concerned, you will probably be just as futile as if you were wrong.
Buddha said: 'Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love,' and a misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact ,diplomacy,conciliation and sympathetic desire to see the other person's viewpoint.Don't raise your voice,improve your argument.
"Don't raise your voice , improve your argument."
Galileo said: 'You cannot teach a man anything,you can only help him to find it within himself'.If a person makes a statement that you think is wrong -- yes,even that you know is wrong--isn't it better to begin by saying: 'Well now look.I thought otherwise but I may be wrong.I frequently am.And if I am wrong, I want to be put right.Let's examine the facts.'
There's magic,positive magic in such phrases as: 'I may be wrong.I frequently am.Let's examine the facts.' No body in the earth will ever object these words.
When we are wrong,we may admit it to ourselves.And if we are handled gently and tactfully,we may admit it to others and even take pride in our frankness and broad-mindedness.
"Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against - Bruce Lee "
No one likes to feel that he or she is being sold something or told to do a thing. We much prefer to feel that we are buying of our own accord or acting on our own idea.
We like to be consulted about our wishes, our wants, our thoughts. Letting the other person feel that the idea is his or hers not only work in business or politics, it works in family life as well.So the sage, wishing to be above men, put himself below them; wishing to be before them,he put himself behind them.Thus, though his place be above men, they don't feel his weight; though his place be before them they do not count it an injury.
"Do the hard job first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves."
Wouldn't you like to have a magic phrase that would stop argument, eliminate ill feeling, create goodwill and make other person listen attentively?
Yes? All right. Here it is: 'I don't blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel as you do.'Answer like this will soften the most factious old cuss alive. You deserve very little credit for being what you are and remember , the people who come to you irritated ,unreasoning, deserve very little discredit for being what they are. Feel sorry for the poor devils.Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy.Give it to them, and they will love you.
"Friendship improves happiness and abates misery, by the doubling of our joy and dividing of our grief."
J. Pierpont Morgan observed ,in one of his analytical interludes,that a person usually has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good and a real one.The person himself will think of the real reason. You don't need to emphasise that. But all of us beig idealist at heart, like to think of motive that sounds good. So, in order to change people, appeal to the nobler motives.
To put it differently and perhaps more clearly , people are honest and want to discharge their obligations.The exceptions to that rule are comparatively few and I am convinced that the individuals who are inclined to chisel will in most cases react favourably if you make them feel that you consider them honest, upright and fair.
"Criticism like a rain , should be gentle enough to nourish a man's growth without destroying his roots."
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Here I am giving you to use your most resource and achieve your fullest potential.
There are so many steps to influence people and here I am giving you best tips to influence friends and peoples.
5 STEPS TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE
1- You can't win an Argument
If you argue and rankle and contradict,you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's goodwill.
So figure out for yourself. Which would you rather have ,an academic ,theatrical victory or a person's goodwill?You can seldom have both.You may be right ,dead right, as you speed along in your argument,but as far as changing another's mind is concerned, you will probably be just as futile as if you were wrong.
Buddha said: 'Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love,' and a misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact ,diplomacy,conciliation and sympathetic desire to see the other person's viewpoint.Don't raise your voice,improve your argument.
"Don't raise your voice , improve your argument."
2- Avoid making Enemies
Galileo said: 'You cannot teach a man anything,you can only help him to find it within himself'.If a person makes a statement that you think is wrong -- yes,even that you know is wrong--isn't it better to begin by saying: 'Well now look.I thought otherwise but I may be wrong.I frequently am.And if I am wrong, I want to be put right.Let's examine the facts.'
There's magic,positive magic in such phrases as: 'I may be wrong.I frequently am.Let's examine the facts.' No body in the earth will ever object these words.
When we are wrong,we may admit it to ourselves.And if we are handled gently and tactfully,we may admit it to others and even take pride in our frankness and broad-mindedness.
"Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against - Bruce Lee "
3- How to get Cooperation
No one likes to feel that he or she is being sold something or told to do a thing. We much prefer to feel that we are buying of our own accord or acting on our own idea.
We like to be consulted about our wishes, our wants, our thoughts. Letting the other person feel that the idea is his or hers not only work in business or politics, it works in family life as well.So the sage, wishing to be above men, put himself below them; wishing to be before them,he put himself behind them.Thus, though his place be above men, they don't feel his weight; though his place be before them they do not count it an injury.
"Do the hard job first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves."
4- What everybody wants
Wouldn't you like to have a magic phrase that would stop argument, eliminate ill feeling, create goodwill and make other person listen attentively?
Yes? All right. Here it is: 'I don't blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel as you do.'Answer like this will soften the most factious old cuss alive. You deserve very little credit for being what you are and remember , the people who come to you irritated ,unreasoning, deserve very little discredit for being what they are. Feel sorry for the poor devils.Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy.Give it to them, and they will love you.
"Friendship improves happiness and abates misery, by the doubling of our joy and dividing of our grief."
5- An appeal that everybody likes
J. Pierpont Morgan observed ,in one of his analytical interludes,that a person usually has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good and a real one.The person himself will think of the real reason. You don't need to emphasise that. But all of us beig idealist at heart, like to think of motive that sounds good. So, in order to change people, appeal to the nobler motives.
To put it differently and perhaps more clearly , people are honest and want to discharge their obligations.The exceptions to that rule are comparatively few and I am convinced that the individuals who are inclined to chisel will in most cases react favourably if you make them feel that you consider them honest, upright and fair.
"Criticism like a rain , should be gentle enough to nourish a man's growth without destroying his roots."
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